Have you ever felt helpless because you have not met your expectations?

Have you always felt irritated when no one takes you seriously?
Do you feel that your opinion should always matter to others?

Do you feel angry when feedback is given?

Are you in constant conflict with yourself about thinking of what went wrong?

If your answer is yes in two or more of these questions, you may be lacking the skill of SELF - MONITORING.  

Generally what happens is that people are over-confident and over-estimate themselves. And the main problem is that they don’t want to come out of it. They tend to believe that they are always right.

Few people are the exact opposite. They think that they are less competent or underestimate themselves so much that they go into acute depression and face a lack of confidence in whatever they do.

Self-monitoring is very important as if you don’t do it well can cause major stress, not only to yourself but to the people around you, resulting in poor performance and broken relationships

There are few tips on how to develop it – making you feel better about yourself and others.


Self-Monitoring is the ability of a person to accurately examine himself/herself – knowing exactly what they’re capable of and what their strengths and weaknesses are. It is a skill that can be learned.

• Leave the idea of being always right.
• Ask for help.
• Cooperate with others instead of competing mode always.
• Don’t exaggerate your own value, contributions and worth.
• Push yourself hard to continuously assess yourself.
• Don’t do too much of pinpointing things

• Give credit to others also for their efforts
• Try to admit mistakes more quickly
• Accept feedback and criticism positively

Once you have learned to skilled this art accurately and start assessing yourself, you will be able to study yourself well and get to know your capabilities and limitations easily. 

It is very important to accept yourself as you are, including your imperfections, you will take the feedback and criticism more constructively.

The moment you learn this art of doing self-monitoring, you will be open to new perspectives and hunger for new ideas. You are one step ahead in self-development and acknowledge success and growth. You will learn to improve on areas where you need to improve.


To make it easier to develop this skill, here are few ideas to follow-

• Accept feedback without becoming defensive.
• Make it easier for people to give you genuine feedback.
• Be open to gaining new insights and learning new things.
• Learn more about your strengths, weaknesses, opportunities and threats.
• Always update yourself on self-learning, growth and improvement.

Having an Accurate Self-Monitoring can help you excel at almost everything.